As I look back on all of the years I have been writing about JUCO basketball, it is very seldom that I write about the parents of the college basketball players. In part, it is because it a time for the young men to be pulling away from them and becoming adults themselves.
I have met parents who come to every game and even practice on their days off. I have never met far too many parent(s) who never or seldom come to to a game in two years.
Its very difficult to communicate in writing about all of the things that college basketball parents go through with their son’s. How do you write about a joyful look or a sad silence? The unspoken fear that their son might make a life changing decision with someone in that knot of young women who are fawning over him after every game. Why is my son sitting on the bench? He’s always been a star. Is its coaches’ fault…or my son?
The pure joy when their son gets a full ride scholarship offers from three universities. The family’s pride when their son gets the 4.0 academic award along with being named to the first all-conference team. The look on the player’s face when he tells you how happy his mother is when he called her and told her he was back in college.
We all know about parents who won’t let their son go and always blame the coach or someone else for the bad decisions their son’s make. Few of us notice the parents who quietly support their son’s through thick and thin while letting them go and become men.
One thing I can tell you for sure, if the first thing a father of one your players talks to you about after a big game is about his son’s good grades, that kid is going to be a winner in life.
The time of letting go and joy and pain.